Stacey grew up aware of and comfortable with her own pleasure from an early age. She has a daughter and is twice divorced. She's had a rich sex life, and now finds happiness, satisfaction, and opportunity for personal growth in open relationships.
Stacey is a 45-year-old, cis-gender female, who describes herself as Black, heterosexual, and non-monogamous. She is currently single and open to exploring a relationship with a "primary partner."
This is a re-broadcast of episode 5.
- Her first memory of sexual desire, at about age 6, is of playing with a "male" doll and rubbing its hand on her vulva.
- Stacey shares early childhood memories of making out with girls, imitating intimacy as she sees in families on TV, and low-level sexually exploring for pleasure with a male cousin. She knows enough to keep these secrets from grownups.
- She talks about her first make-out as a teen.
- Pleasure dynamic in sexual explorations and experiences is focused on herself even from the start.
- She tells the story of losing her virginity.
- Stacey tells her mom she's had sex.
- She associates the ability/need to communicate with feelings around intimacy, and notes the difference between physical intimacy and sexual intimacy.
- Stacey realizes she's been able to work through anger by directing it at her mother, because her mother was emotionally available for it.
- Stacey embraces being comfortable with sexuality with her own daughter, and talks about the positive energetic impact of good sex.
- Stacey opens up about her first "real" boyfriend, the distinction being that it was "reciprocal."
- She meets her first husband.
- She currently practices ethical non-monogamy, but shares how non-monogamy was more like cheating with earlier relationships and marriages. She also shares what it looks like with her current lovers.
- Stacey and Leah discuss orgasms, and ways to be multi-orgasmic.
Audio extras for this episode are:
- The full, unedited interview with Stacey
Update:
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:
EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak
