Lachlan was born with a vagina. His is the story of how a boy learned to be a girl, then learned to be invisible, then a lesbian, before learning that he could just be who he was all along, except that it's still … complicated.
Lachlan is a 41-year-old transgender man. He describes himself as white, straight-ish, monogamish and single. He describes his body as a round, cuddly bear.
- Lachlan shares the complications around early sexual desire for him, because he knew he was attracted to other little girls.
- Lachlan's parents don't pressure him to gender conform as a kid, though trans isn't a known thing back then. Until, a birthday party. He learns about "passing" and blouses, and struggles through his teens.
- He talks about his rich fantasy life as a teen, in which he is a tall handsome football-playing penis-bearing male vaguely modeled on Macguyver.
- Lachlan's first sexual experience of any kind is at age 21 with his first girlfriend, who teaches him to masturbate. He squirts!
- The concept of transgender comes into his awareness.
- Lachlan comes out, despite fearing he will lose his entire family.
- After the news is broken to his father (by his mother) it is never spoken of between them again.
- Lachlan shares outward steps of transition; therapy, hormones, telling people you work with, growing facial hair.
- Becoming a man complicates his lesbian relationship.
- Lachlan details how sexuality transitions along with transitioning: the impacts of testosterone, top and bottom surgical options, the discomfort of still having to get a pap smear, etc.
- Lachlan talks about the mechanics around having sex in present day.
- Top surgery has enhanced appearance but decreased sensation.
- Heartbreak and pandemic create time alone.
- Lachlan passes fully as a male, and decides if and when disclosure comes, in normal life as well as dating.
- He opens the door on bathroom talk.
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EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak
