Dr. Evelin Dacker is a cisgender half-Mexican, half-Jewish polyamorous woman who is 53 years old.
Evelin is a sex-positive physician in Eugene, Oregon and the CEO of Sex Positive Portland, an organization dedicated to understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality. She is also the creator of the STARS Talk, a format for talking about your sexuality and preferences so that we can ALL have more satisfying sexual encounters with both current and new partners.
- Evelin's history with masturbation from the time she was a baby
- Judy Blume's books as sex education
- How the ability to self-pleasure replaced a desire for sex as a teenager
- Learning compersion
- Distinguishing between open relationships and cheating
- The relationship Evelin defines as "primary"
- Meeting her spouse on a beach in Thailand
- What is NRE? (Hint: New Relationship Energy)
- The effects of being married to an alcoholic
- How the story of their meeting kept her marriage together
- The terrible side effects Evelin experienced with birth control pills
- The distinction between moving sexual energy and sensual energy while having sex
- The answer Evelin knew but didn't want to know: she didn't feel safe
- The discovery that saved Evelin's soul: Roller Derby
- The re-emergence of Evelin's bisexuality
- Sober vs. dry drunk
- Getting turned on by seeing someone flirting with her spouse
- Becoming anorgasmic and looking forward to menopause
- Opening the relationship
- Meeting a soulmate that supported Evelin through deep sexual healing
- The end of her marriage and discovering polyamory
- The evolution of the relationship with her spouse now that they are no longer married
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Update:
Since this episode was released, the podcast has concluded. Here's how you can find me now:
EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email)
Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby
Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo
Music – Nazar Rybak
