Episode Description:
In this raw, heart-opening episode of Healing Starts with the Heart, grief specialist Sharon Brubaker walks you through one of the deepest truths about loss—grief doesn't just take your person. It takes everything. And no one prepares you for that part.
With her own story and the stories of thousands of grievers she's supported, Sharon names the unspoken: how grief sneaks in like a thief in the night and strips away your energy, your motivation, your peace, and even your sense of time. This isn't just emotional pain. It's physical, spiritual, mental—and it touches every part of your life.
If you've felt like grief broke something in you that you can't get back... this episode will make you feel seen. It's not just you. This is what grief does. But this is also your invitation to take it back—your joy, your identity, your voice, your future.
Key Points Discussed:
Grief doesn't just take your person—
It takes you, the version of you who felt whole before the loss.
Energy depletion and physical exhaustion—
Why simple tasks like getting out of bed, showering, or doing laundry can feel impossible.
Loss of motivation and pleasure—
The things you used to love may now feel meaningless or numb.
Sleep disruption—
Why nights are the hardest and how grief hijacks your ability to rest.
Loss of confidence and focus—
How grief impacts your ability to think clearly, trust yourself, and feel secure in your identity.
The collapse of inner peace—
Why your nervous system stays on high alert after your loss.
Grief and identity loss—
Feeling like a stranger in your own life and questioning your role in the world.
Grief takes your voice—
The silence we fall into when no one understands our pain or says the right thing.
Time distortion—
Feeling stuck in the moment of loss while time speeds up or slows down around you.
Future grief—
Mourning the dreams, milestones, and shared plans that will never happen.
Control and patience vanish—
How grief can make you feel emotionally raw, snappy, and out of control.
The truth no one tells you—
Grief may have taken everything... but you can take it back.
Journal Questions for Reflection:
What's something you've lost that no one talks about?
What do you miss most about yourself—the version of you before the loss?
Where do you feel most "not like yourself" these days?
What's one thing grief made you believe you couldn't reclaim—but maybe you can?
Join the Journey:
You were not given a life sentence when your person died. You're allowed to reclaim the pieces of your life that grief tried to steal. The healing starts when you stop pretending you're okay, and begin honoring what you've lost—and what you still deserve to feel.
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Come to the Healing Weekend Intensive:
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