Episode Description
"Your grief is not a burden. Your silence is."

In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, asks a hard but necessary question:

What is your grief costing you?

After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief does not just take the person you love. It takes your energy. Your focus. Your sense of self. And when you start hiding it, it takes even more.

Many grievers believe staying quiet makes them strong. They believe pretending to be "okay" protects the people around them. But silence does not protect you. It isolates you. It disconnects you. It keeps you stuck in survival mode.

This episode explores the hidden cost of emotional suppression and why grief needs a place to land.

This episode is not about falling apart.
It is about telling the truth.

Because healing does not happen in hiding.
It happens when your pain is seen.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

• Why hiding your grief drains your energy and disconnects you from support
• How silence keeps you stuck in survival mode
• The difference between protecting others and abandoning yourself
• Why grief needs space, air, and honesty to begin healing
• Simple, practical ways to start telling the truth about your pain

Questions to Sit With After Listening

You do not need to rush these.

• What has my grief been costing me emotionally?
• Where have I been pretending instead of telling the truth?
• Who feels safe enough to hear even a small piece of my pain?
• What is one thing I need to say out loud this week?

Homework for You

At the top of a page, write:

"What my silence is costing me."

Be honest.
No performing.
No minimizing.

Just tell the truth.

Then circle one small step you can take this week to let your grief have a place to land.

That is where the shift begins.

Resources + Next Steps

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