Description

Episode Description
"Unprocessed grief does not disappear. It shows up in the way you attach, the way you fear, and the way you love."

In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Sean Walker, a faith-based relationship coach who helps men and women understand attachment patterns, regulate their nervous systems, and stop repeating the same painful relationship cycles.

After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is what happens when love has nowhere to land. And that same injury can show up after death, divorce, breakup, abandonment, or the loss of a connection that was never safely formed.

Together, Sharon and Sean unpack the powerful overlap between grief and attachment.

They explore how early relationships shape the way we love, why people cling or shut down, how labels can help but also keep people stuck, and what it really means to heal at the soul level instead of just trying to fix the relationship.

This conversation is not about dating tricks.
It is about internal rewiring.

Because sometimes the real heartbreak is not just who left.
It is the pattern that keeps getting repeated.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

How grief and attachment are deeply connected

• Why breakup pain is often more than "just a breakup"
• What anxious and avoidant attachment can look like in real life
• Why people over-identify with labels instead of doing the healing work
• How unprocessed grief can keep showing up in dating and relationships
• Why you can still love someone and know the relationship is not right for you
• What it means to build security that lasts beyond marriage or romantic love

Questions to Sit With After Listening

You do not need to answer these quickly.

• Am I grieving a person, a relationship, or a version of safety I never had?
• What patterns do I keep repeating in love?
• Have I been using labels to understand myself — or to avoid feeling?
• Do I want love from a place of wholeness, or do I need it to prove I'm okay?

Homework for You

Write this at the top of a page:

"What am I really grieving in love?"

Then answer honestly.

Not the polished answer.
Not the spiritual answer.
Not the one that makes you sound healed.

The real one.

Because you cannot heal what you keep misnaming.

Resources + Next Steps

Find Sean Walker on social media at Coach Sean Walker

Explore his resources, including Feel to Heal and Beat the Breakup

👉 Find everything at https://stan.store/TheGriefSchool