Life coach Tamara Lichfield shares with sisters Courtney and Carley the basics of healthy connection—communication styles to avoid and listening strategies to incorporate. This episode is part 1 in a 3-part series with Tamara about preparing oneself to make healthy connections.
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Timeline
0:00 Introduction of guest expert and topic
4:00 Emotional check-in: self-regulation, expressing emotions including anger
12:00 Creating healthy connections—communications to avoid: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling (plus antedates for each)
23:00 Parts of the brain: 1) Amygdala = primitive brain = survival brain = reptilian brain. 2) Prefrontal cortex = executive brain = logical brain.
24:45 Healthy connection practices: listen more than you talk, make eye contact, watch for non-verbal cues, listen without judgment, be reflective, ask curiosity questions, keep body posture open, lean in, be comfortable with a little bit of silence, give undivided attention, be genuine with compliments and specific with praise
28:00 Tangent about Win a Date with Tad Hamilton and the seven smiles
30:45 Final healthy connection practice (vulnerability), concluding thoughts, outtakes
