Dr. Venus's brother, Tory, went home to be with the Lord this Christmas Eve. She wanted to have a conversation this week to discuss grief, coping, and how it looks different for everyone. Needless to say, they are each coping with the loss of their beloved family member in the best and healthiest way they can at this time, but how? Tune in this week for an intimate and authentic conversation about strategies to cope, accept, nurture, and ultimately have faith after the death of a loved one due to COVID-19.
Key Takeaways:
[1:13] Dr. Venus shares the heartbreaking news that her brother Tory passed away from COVID-19. She discusses how it's important to never judge a person by how they grieve. The process is different for everyone.
[3:28] When someone you care about is grieving, of course you can send your sympathy and love, but don't expect a back and forth conversation. They could not have the energy or bandwidth beyond seeing your message and acknowledging it.
[5:02] Don't tell someone that is grieving what to do, or what not to do. It's a very personal process.
[5:50] For Dr. Venus, a sense of normalcy and stability is what feels best. Keeping a routine helps her stay grounded during an intense time of grief.
[9:05] The Five Stages of Grief are:
[12:50] If you are the one grieving right now, it's okay not to talk to people if you feel numb. However you want to show up in the world is okay.
[21:19] We can still be heartbroken and grief stricken but believe that God has an ultimate master plan and have Faith in surrendering to the bigger plan. It doesn't mean you don't mourn, but that you set aside your pride and ego to give everything over to God.
[23:50] We have opinions and preferences about how things should be, but we don't have a big enough view to understand God's plan.
[25:38] Find things you can spiritually connect with and grieve through. For Dr. Venus, writing and dancing are extremely healing and powerful.
[28:58] Give others (or yourself) the grace of knowing that it's okay to have delayed reactions in grief. That doesn't mean you are suppressing, it comes out when it does.
[29:50] Tory was a great brother, father, son, nephew, uncle, friend, provider, and so much more. He was funny, brilliant, entrepreneurial, loving, and kind, and Dr. Venus will always adore him.
[32:49] A large part of COVID is preparation. Take it seriously and do your part.
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