Through the process of grieving through her brother's transition due to COVID, Dr. Venus has committed to spending time and energy to become her best self. One of those actions is getting out into the dating scene and calling in the energy to be courted, wooed, and loved by a Black Man. She hired a personal trainer. Changed her diet. Even bought new shoes (that's how serious it is!), and signed up for two dating apps that cost a pretty penny.
Yet, when a White Man asked her out and she declined, she was called a racist. This leads to the discussion this week — are you racist when you decide to date within your own race, or are you a racialist, seeing the eye of humanity through race? Dr. Venus opens up and shares how deciding to date a Black Man is also a step in her healing, why it's important to delineate between racist vs. racialist, and how the energy of love and money both requires you to both jump into action and claim what you desire.
Key Takeaways:
[3:05] Dr. Venus wants to get a few things straight. She is NOT Anti-White, but she is proudly Pro-Black. She is extremely open-minded and Queer identified. Saying she wants to call in the love of a Black Man is stating her preference, and a conscious decision for what she wants to do with HER own body.
[5:05] The social justice issues Dr. Venus is passionate about things such as Black Lives Matter, Trans Rights, etc. is one of several reasons why she wants to date a Black Man. She doesn't want to argue with a White Man about these things, especially not one she is dating.
[8:37] How come a woman can't say no without someone telling her what to do with her body, including who is inside her body? Dr. Venus explains how this stems from White Supremacy, where Black Women were just used for their bodies, instead of seen as a human being.
[9:40] Dr. Venus is not a racist, but a racialist. She sees the world through the lens of race.
[13:24] Dr. Venus may not have given Black Men a chance in the past, but she is open now and that is part of her healing. She explains the primary relationship she had with her father, who kept her alive but didn't stay.
[14:55] As someone who doesn't follow the rules or the politics of a certain group, Dr. Venus is Queer Identified. While her former spouse was a woman, she has every right to now desire the love of a Black Man.
[16:21] Just like money, if you want love, you have to make yourself energetically available to it.
[18:00] Dr. Venus is already seeing Black Men come through her energetic space. She shares a story about a message she received, and when she called the man back to discuss how to be a better father, she almost choked at how attractive he was! While he didn't come through any of her dating sites, it's clear she is doing the work.
[21:00] Are you willing to stand for what you want, even when people don't agree?
[24:12] If you don't say what you want, how can you ever have what you want? You can't have what you want if you aren't willing to claim it.
[27:02] Dr. Venus deciding to date a Black Man doesn't mean she is narrow minded. It means she knows what she wants to call in, and is brave enough to claim it.
[20:24] It's okay to have desire and to decide what you want in your body.
[33:34] Both in love and money, really think about if you are taking action to put yourself out there for what it is you deeply desire.
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