May is the month we love our mothers, and there is no better time than now to heal old wounds and traumas from the mother dynamic and embrace the grace and space that comes with a fresh new perspective. This week, Dr. Venus shares how our money and how we relate to the world is heavily influenced by this relationship with our mothers and how we can free ourselves by changing the way we view generational patterns and behaviors. It's not easy to take a good long look at the turbulence and complicated relationships often associated with our mothers, but it's well worth it.
Key Takeaways:
[5:25] If you have any resentment, regret, shame, or blame attached to your mother, your money will not multiply and your relationship to your mother is undermining your money.
[6:02] Our relationship with our mother is how we relate to other women in the world, and it's a fundamental human need for our mothers to love us, acknowledge us, and show us that we matter. When we grow up feeling as though we didn't get that, we typically repeat the same patterns or act out in a completely opposite way.
[7:57] Usually our mommas were wounded way before we came into the womb and it may even go generations back.
[18:11] Dr. Venus became free when she started to imagine her mother's story and viewed her as a human being instead of just her momma.
[22:19] If you could make the case that your mother's actions are nothing more than a historical wound that got materialized through the flesh, you start to consider that it's not personal.
[24:49] Do you want to be free? Do you really want to thrive in this lifetime and break the generational curse of distrusting other women? So many of us want to stay comfortable. It's not easy work, but it's worth it, and the relationship with your mother is the most important one to heal because it's directly how we relate to the women around us personally and professionally.
[27:09] You have invisible strings that when you aren't free of the past and the pain, you dance to whether you want to or not.
[29:52] Our mother wounds also create a capacity to have empathy and strength. We can be grateful for the survival tactics we developed in dealing with our dynamic, and maybe they were put there to give us gifts in adulthood.
Quotes:
● "When you can relate to your mother as a person and not a parent, there is room for grace."
● "Underneath all my rage and resentment, I was so hurt that she could hurt me."
● "Until you take on healing your relationship with your mother, your relationship with your daughters are in jeopardy."
● "When you locate her innocence and give your mother the gift of grace, your life starts to open up."
● "If you take on healing your mother wound, you will be surprised how quickly love comes to you."
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