Most men are decent at setting goals for where they want to go. Almost nobody sets goals for who they want to be on the way there. In this episode, I break down the difference between destination goals and journey goals, share my actual present-tense vision statements across six life areas, and give you a framework for writing your own — even if you're currently in separation.
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Timestamps:
- 0:00 — Introduction
- 0:31 — Why separated men especially need this
- 2:36 — Why most men don't goal-set like they think
- 3:41 — "I never cheated, I never hit her" — why bare minimum isn't enough
- 4:51 — The "passively decent husband" trap
- 6:58 — The absence of intentionality
- 7:49 — Two types of goals: destination vs. journey
- 9:33 — Terry's story: what happens with only destination goals
- 11:30 — Vision ≠ vision boards (the sprinter analogy)
- 13:33 — How I structure goals by life area
- 16:36 — My actual vision statements (marriage, family, faith, mind)
- 20:15 — The four layers of goal setting
- 21:45 — Husband Help Group + free one-sheet resource
- 23:37 — Action steps: what to do from here
- 26:14 — Separation-specific application
- 28:17 — Should you share this with your wife?
- 30:09 — Next episode preview
