Mark opens with the definition of resentment
What it is and why it shows up in our lives
Jim brings our flywheel into the discussion and how many things are still present from our childhood
The guys both agree how important self awareness and personal accountability
Life is not fair
We all resent, but the difference is between those who wallow and those who look for personal accountability
Jim - I’d rather die trying than live in regret
Mark relates his divorce to the topic
Jim asks, how much are we still stuck in the past
Mark jokes about forgiveness in the context of his ex
Jim puts Mark on the spot
Mark admits he is mad at himself to some extent for thinking he could change her
Jim says most people blame and cannot look inside
Mark talks about managing her reengagement and abandonment and how he needs to let go
Mark brings up his mom’s suicide and how he resented that for a sec
Jim says we all resent
Jim resents our politicians for what they done to ruin the country - Worldview
Jim brings up professional resentment and Mark reminds Jim of his story
Jim says he’s more resentful of allowing his boss to get away with it
Resentment and dignity are intertwined
Mark brings back the concept of unfairness and why he speaks up, why he votes
Jim brings back the wheel
Money resent - Mark talks about not hiding money and being taken advantage of
Making decisions an emotional state
Mark resents not firing his attorney and the back story to that
Jim shares his attorney story…that fucking guy…
Mark talks about firing his attorney and then getting sole custody of his kids
Mark talks about his kids resentment of that whole process and everyone in it
Negative emotions processed quickly and moving on with learning is the way to go
Jim brings up listening to a podcast with the author of The Secret - it’s good to get your problems out or they’ll sneak up on you later…regret and resentment
Mark talks about how to process resentment and regret and how some of it stays around and needs further work
Mark talks about accepting your responsibility and how to move on, Self aware, nope to blame, and create space for some loving thought…move on
Jim speaks to learning what not to do if that bad thing happens again
Mark says you don’t make good decisions from a place of fear
Jim says yes and it’s unfair to blame others in that same spot
Blame gets you nowhere
I’m sorry and I forgive you…unconditionally
Mark talks about apologizing to his son and the time leading up to it
Jim references a Podcast about Putin and how he became who he is
How we become who we are. Pain and resentment can shape us
Mark says he’s a broken man. Not an excuse, but an understanding
Jim relates Putin’s judo background to his recent actions
Mark talks bullyinigand the psychology of it
