Mark introduces the topic and both guys have personal accounts of dealing with making themselves vulnerable
Jim thinks that most of us don't put ourselves out there
Jim brings in our flywheel and the 5 areas of life and then uses his 5 W's approach (Why, who, when, where and what)
Mark reads the definition of self-vulnerability that Jim provides from his online searches about the topic
Jim says acknowledging your strengths is easy, but sharing your weaknesses is much harder
Jim shares his fear he experienced getting ready for a recent webinar presentation. He wonders why he put himself out there and pushed himself like he did. He felt humiliated and uncomfortable
Mark appreciates the vulnerability and shares his perspective from the outside looking in. He shared what he thought was his role in helping Jim
Jim shares Marks comments after the recording about the difference between team and individual sports
Mark shares a tennis story and how it became more than tennis. It became a mental and emotional exercise. He reflects on the pride of the win
Jim shares his opinion on how new things are met with resistance and growth is on the other side of the resistance
Mark suggests that Jim will be happy he did it and not whether it was good or not
Mark shares his vulnerable experience writing his most recent workbook. How challenging it has been to send it out and await feedback. What if they say it sucks?
The voices in your head
Jim shares 5 examples of self vulnerability
1. Embracing your imperfections. It's hard to be kind to yourself. How ironic that our podcast is all about imperfection
2. Admitting your mistakes instead of denying them or blaming others. Jim has grown to appreciate people that own their own shit. Mark asks…if you don't own it, how do you get better
3. Accepting your emotions. Process instead deny. Mark shares his daughters experience with embracing fear
4. Acknowledge your limitations (Clint Eastwood quote). Jim shares a text from his future daughter in law and expands on how aging has changed his view of his own limitations and who he surrounds himself with. Mark shares the difference between physical and emotional "finish lines". Jim goes further into his inner voice and self reflection as a dyslexic - embarrasment. Both guys share perspectives on criticism. Mark talks about his fear of apathy versus hate. Mark's two voices - imposter and expert. The crazy inner voice
5. Being honest about your needs. Saying no to other people and projects. You need others help with almost everything
Jim talks about the effort and energy he put into his talk…and he still wasn't satisfied. He shares his friend's opinion on his webinar…"I know why you think it sucked…they're fuckin hard"
Mark gives both guys credit…most people won't take the risk
