This episode is an IGTV conversation calling out coaches who gaslight their clients and are more focused on their ego than of the mental and physical well-being of others. J.Go breaks down how to identify a coach like this and when to set boundaries.
Some red flags to look for in coaching:
- There’s nothing wrong with their methods, it’s YOUR fault you’re not losing weight.
- They tell you that if you don’t stick to the (probably restrictive) meal plan, then you’re not serious enough.
- Talking down to, or belittling, clients
- Being caught up in their ego and not being willing to shift part of the program to appease their client
When to set Boundaries:
- If you’re being shamed and are getting no flexibility -- it’s time to drop that coach.
- If you’re feeling responsible for other people’s happiness, or feel like other people’s problems are consuming you -- you need to set boundaries.
- Feeling guilty over small things or wanting time for yourself
- If you’re a ‘yes’ woman and put your own needs on the back burner
- If you avoid sharing your opinion to avoid confrontation
- If you find it difficult to express your needs to others (for fear of judgement or guilt).
As your coach, I care much more about your relationship with food + your body than I do about cutting corners to get “results” that can lead to long-term physical AND mental health issues down the road.
You deserve to invest in a coach who cares AND has education + experience to support your goals long-term.
