In the third part of my overcoming series, I’m going to share about something else that has come from personal experience – overcoming self-doubt. (Listen to overcoming rejection or jealousy.)
I remember when I was in my early 20’s my best friend said I was the most insecure person she knew. She was right but I didn’t know why. As I got older and found freedom in Christ, I realized the reason was that I had a rough time with friends in high school and college. Their words and actions came from their own insecurity but were projected onto me.
See, I succeeded as a singer and actress at a young age. I had a lot of favor and when it made me lose friends I would make less of myself so they would like me more.
Enter self-doubt. I couldn’t make decisions. I doubted every choice I made. I wanted what other people thought was best. If I had to choose between what I wanted and what someone else wanted, I choose their way. I avoided conflict at all costs. Maintaining peace and being liked was more important than my own opinion. It’s normal to want everyone to like you. But I tried harder than I should have and what others thought of me was more important than what I wanted to do or who I wanted to be.
I can’t say there was a moment of revelation on this. It’s more like I learned by trial and error how to overcome self-doubt and insecurity. In the beginning, I lost more battles than I won. I still struggle and yet I don’t mind. If I was insensitive to others then I’d have another problem on my hands. The point is to not let self-doubt hold you back.
Today I’ll share what I’ve learned about overcoming self-doubt. I hope you find the freedom to be who God created you to be too.
