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What we think can have a big impact on our ability to find success in our careers. Whether we listen to those voices or not is entirely up to us.
Scott and Andrew share some tips and techniques to manage those voices positively on this episode of Job Seekers Radio.
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Redirecting your focus to get results, going from negative to positive.
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Getting over the platitudes heard from friends and family.
The value of self-coaching.
Re-framing situations and circumstances with networking to find answers.
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Careers faster whether you're working or not today's episode we're talking about managing the voice in your head in fact this episode is brought to you by the Anatomy Logan to job seekers radio I'm Andrew and I'm Scott this production is meant to provide meaningful support find great what do you think would be a better question to ask what is it that I bring to the marketplace that other people could use that or series of questions that you might think about to open your mind to another possibility to direct your efforts to we'd like to help possibly to re frame the questions as they pop up questions are really powerful tool today is to sort of give some alternatives to these questions their common questions we hear them all the time and the work that we do and thing everyone has we all talk to each other to what degree may differ between people but we are always telling ourselves as story involved in a networking conversation and we have that as a free gift for you in today's show we WanNa talk about managing the voice in your head that's right everything emotionally speaking that makes you an exceptional employee and a great person right yeah and suddenly you don't have answers a positive end for you which could be a promotion or whatever it is you're seeking right coming back to the common question why am I not getting a job Andrew Day and we're asking ourselves a lot of questions already if you've been in a job or are between jobs you've probably asked some of these questions of yourself a lot of times we build the story based on assumptions we make because we don't know the answers to the questions we ask ourselves so we actually want to address that getting the job be clear on why you should get it whatever that job is now we get into we won't go into detail on this podcast it's an endless loop kind of question well especially because the answer could be different for every person you ask a exactly even if they were to tell you the truth that means there's no answer you know what why am I not getting promoted right why did that person get the role and not me a why did I not get a callback why have I not been if you're asked about your branding statement or how to market yourself and your abilities but that's the direction this takes when you have a clear answer to that question working why have I not been included in conversations that affect my team and this can affect your your mindset everything yeah and your confidence one I if you've been unemployed for any length of time it's likely you've asked yourself whether or not you're employable that is another very common question so what we wanted are there is beneficial or that I feel I'm I'm here to do right that that's a great way to turn it around instead of looking at why you're aw when the question comes up why not getting hired let's start by reframing it about what do I bring to the table and be very cautious of verse redirect your mind into something way more productive exactly and we use them in coaching all the time in our objective here today really is to give you a list and that can be frustrating that can be deflating. There's a lot of reasons why I would not use a why question so here's another question really any y question because often it could be something that has no answer right that you continually well why don't have that don't have this and it just why did I not get that interview when I'm qualified what is the process inside that company to get to interviews a lot of people don't know that I mean made it systems to accept and and manage the resumes that were coming in and I just sort of laughed that off because this is were fairly new in terms of the technology but it was surprising to me how quickly even small companies I don't know if from one company to the next or even one requisition to the next right or one recruiter to the next what that process is inside that company to get to it interview now ten years ago if you had told me well actually people had told that companies were were using more and more companies were using Ah jumped onto that bandwagon because it freed up their time well it when you think about that becoming the norm that could be an answer right there while you're not getting the interview however the one way to twist that is going to be what is bringing me the interviews that I am getting so now you're looking at objective data rather than the subjective assumptions and you can work with that more easily and that's tailored to your experience Sir I'm good with that here's another question how do I know if I'm interviewing well and how do I get better why are they not giving me feedback well a lot of times you're likely to find an answer okay because your mind is designed to search for it okay we're looking for patterns right exactly and so the question that I get a lot is how long is this rich I'd be sipping on my tie in Maui talking to you right well we'd be doing it together you go in Maui Oh practices the thing you control exactly it's in your locus of control how the interview turns out is not in your control right right so for you it would be a different answer but because you asked yourself the answer you're GonNa find it and that's the nice thing about this process if you ask yourself the answers or the question go back and practice that interview review it with someone that I trust and who is a good interviewer we all know somebody in our lives who does a fairly recreate it you can take any of these negative focused questions and turn them right around to the positive absolutely why is it well then and I always come back with the same answer there's nothing wrong with you now what can you do differently and that question is answered had the experience where you felt you knocked that interview out of the park and that was it you get the rejection email a week or two later doing wrong or what's what am I missing what am I doing wrong what am I missing presumes that something is missing so how would you turn that one around well I generally when that's because they don't want to get themselves into any legal trouble right what can I do instead that is a better question what can I do to practice my interviewing skills that are totally outside your control and we beat ourselves up over those unnecessarily and I'm sure both have anybody listening to this I'm sure so I'm GonNa ask you who can you talk to that could help you practice who might be able to do some role playing with you yet whatever you have learned from your experiences so when you think about the things that have worked what in your past have you done that God a position that I'm well qualified for whatever it's entirely possible that I am projecting something that is and there's no explanation for it no connection at all it's not in my control is the answer to that question instead of beating myself up I can always way to recreate that moment if whether it's what you said how you set it with whom you're speaking whatever that is is there a way for you to when I get a lot Scott is I've been at this now for nine months what's wrong with me I get that question to give an asked that question the job are you aware of anything that was within your control you feel put you in the best position is there for those who haven't done that before it is great practice so the next time you have an interview you're already prepared the other question coming from that place of feeling down or feeling Under qualified inadequate was I was looking for and so now was a nurturing environment albeit they weren't able to help me get a job because it was family but by changing okay whether you get a call back or a second interview or an offer or they pull that requisition I mean there's so many different things that can happen at after an interview at these questions that really this is about what's going on inside your own head I will turn that to what's going on for you right now because often the job interview so role play with that person okay these are the things that we talked about this is what I said get do a little bit role playing even on it may feel a little odd do right now to feel better about my situation and there's usually something now when I was unemployed for three year period by the end of that three years that was what we are feeling in the moment we project somehow we're not always aware of how so if I'm not really feeling good about myself even though I go to an interview and it's it's I instead think about what's going on for me what is it where am I right now in this moment I can then ask the next question what can because we've been in those situations and we don't want to present any of these ideas as platitudes that's the one thing that was really mindset before the conversations with potential employers I think is what helped me get there and this is probably a good point for us to pause and very difficult question for me to ask but I could still find positive things in the people that that supported me and the environment that I was in that one re
