Dave and Bethlie continue their series on the book The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships.
Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends
- 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict
- They wished their parents had listened more
- They wished they could have talked about feelings more.
- They wished they had talked to their parents more
- Begin by listening - James 1:19
- Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle
- Allow their emotion to touch you
- Take time to feel their pain
- Take time to feel their sadness
- Four destructive ways to argue
- Continually withdrawing from an argument
- Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights
- Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument
- Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose.
- Drive-thru talking!