Welcome! Today’s guest is Sharon Martin, licensed clinical social worker in San Jose, CA. She works with adolescents and adults in helping them embrace their imperfections as individuals and as a family.
In this episode you will learn:
- Sharon began her career working with teenagers
- She is a mom of three children
- In her work she pulls from her own personal teen years and the struggles she had socially, being sensitive person, and with perfectionism
- “Lost sense of who I was”
- Perfectionism can impact both teens and adults
- Increase stress levels
- If I’m not perfect, then it will be catastrophic
- Attempting to people please and look for approval of who you are
- Teens need to separate, become individuals and mess up and learn from their mistakes
- Supporting parents is similar to how working with teens
- Help parents in letting go
- Explore how they as parents are separate from children
- What do you imagine the the worst thing is going to happen and how realistic is it that it will happen
- Inner exploration vs looking outside yourself for validation
- Parallel Processes
- Teens-grappling with identity of who am I
- Women-can have “lost of sense of self” as mom and rediscovering who they are
- Why they seek therapy:
- To find out “Am I ok” for the teenager and for parents it is “will my child going to be ok”-giving them reassurance and hope
- Educating being imperfect is enough
- Change in brain development for this stage
- We are all imperfect
- Helpful for parents to model imperfections with children
- Role model that making mistakes is normal
- Life is a journey not a destination
- Benefits of therapy:
- Help parents and teens explore internal values
- You will be able to handle anything life throws at you
- Teens imagine ideal life that won’t turn out exactly like they imagine.
- Parts of it will be better than expected and parts of it worse than thought.
- Learn how to take healthy risks
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Sharon’s Information:
http://sharonmartincounseling.com/
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/
Book Recommendations: Dr. Kirstin Neff’s-Self-Compassion
