In this heartfelt solo episode, Laura dives into the Let Them Theory, inspired by a popular book she recently read. Speaking candidly about her personal experiences in relationships, business, parenting, and personal growth, she shares how this philosophy has shifted her mindset and given her greater emotional freedom. Rather than trying to fix, control, or change others, the Let Them Theory is about releasing control, setting internal boundaries, and focusing on how we respond instead of trying to change people.
This short but powerful reflection is a must-listen for anyone seeking peace of mind in relationships, entrepreneurship, and everyday life.
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[00:00:00] – Introduction & Why This Topic Matters
Laura opens up about reading a book that’s gone viral on social media – “The Let Them Theory.”
She shares that it deeply resonated with her and sparked this impromptu solo episode.
[00:01:00] – Key Lesson #1: Let People Be
Letting people make their own choices—even wrong ones—is freeing.
Removes the burden of constantly correcting or helping others.
Applies to friendships, family, kids, and work.
[00:02:00] – Key Lesson #2: Boundaries Without Chaos
Quietly setting personal boundaries can reduce conflict.
You don’t always need to vocalize your limits if you’re clear within yourself.
[00:03:00] – Key Lesson #3: Applying It in Business
Negative comments, copycats, unsubscribers are part of entrepreneurship.
Letting things go instead of reacting protects your peace.
Laura shares a real-time story about receiving a body-shaming comment on an ad and how she handled it gracefully.
[00:05:00] – Key Lesson #4: Romantic Relationships
Laura shares how letting her husband "just be" has improved their dynamic.
Trying to change small habits causes more stress than it's worth.
Example: “Let him be a slob” (though she notes her husband is very clean!).
[00:06:00] – Key Lesson #5: Parenting Through the Theory
Laura applies the concept to raising her 9-year-old.
She emphasizes allowing her daughter to make mistakes and face consequences rather than micromanaging.
Empowers the child to learn and grow independently.
[00:08:00] – Key Lesson #6: Letting Go of Emotional Baggage
Laura asks herself daily: “What am I holding onto?”
Reflects on moments with friends and family where she chooses to release frustration rather than dwell on it.
[00:09:00] – Final Reflections & Recommendation
She notes that you are the one who changes, not necessarily others.
The book’s chapters span relationships, work, parenting, and more—making it widely relatable.
Laura encourages everyone to read it.
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“Letting people be who they are gives me so much freedom.”
“It’s exhausting trying to change someone. It’s hard enough to change your own habits.”
“Where can I just let that be?”
“You don’t always have to vocalize your boundaries—just act on them.”
“What am I holding onto?” That’s the question I ask myself now.
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Book: The Let Them Theory
https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/
https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/1401971369
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