It can be really painful when your husband is looking at his phone and not paying attention to you. But the way that you respond, you have 100% control over that. When you learn that you can act charitably even when your husband is playing games on his phone, you are going to feel so powerful as a Catholic mom. This is what the sainthood journey looks like.
Unintentional Model
C: Husband looking at his phone
T: He doesn't care about me.
F: Unloved
A: Snippy with husband, snippy with kids, clean the house angrily, think of all the other ways he doesn't care for you, act childishly, eating cookies/drinking wine/scrolling on your phone
R: You don't care about him.
You don't care about yourself.
Intentional Model
C: husband looking at his phone
T: I wonder what's going on with him.
F: Charity/Curiosity
A: Give him space, ask him later how he's doing, check in with what your needs really are, serve your own needs, serve the kids.
R: You wonder what's going on with him. You wonder what's going on with yourself.
