Why are faggots so afraid of faggots? It was the title of an anthology edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore and is the question I posed to the panel of M3 contributors. Masculinity is one of the issues that touches every gay man at some point in his life. Either his masculinity is called into question or he is pressured to not associate with feminine men. On the dating site that many gay men visit, many ads are openly hostile toward fem men and still others are fetishized to ease their own sense of self-hatred. In the third episode of the M3 Bearcast, I speak with Mark about his history of being in the closet, and why he avoided feminine men for fear he might be outed. I then speak with David Vollin about the way gay men are stereotyped in the mainstream media, and then I speak with Breeze Vencinz about his experiences with effemiphobia.