What does secure attachment actually look like in real life?
For many late-diagnosed neurodivergent adults, the idea of a “secure relationship” can feel almost mythical. If you grew up masking, overthinking every interaction, or bracing for rejection, emotional safety may not have been something your nervous system learned early on.
In this episode of Divergent Paths, Dr. Regina, Ph.D. and Russ explore what secure attachment really means and why it’s not about having perfect communication or conflict-free relationships. Instead, secure attachment is something you can build over time as your nervous system learns that connection can survive misunderstandings, difficult conversations, and moments when things go a little wrong.
Dr. Regina walks through five practical steps that help move relationships toward greater emotional safety:
• Recognizing your attachment patterns • Learning to regulate your nervous system before reacting • Naming your needs without apology • Practicing repair after conflict or misunderstanding • Choosing relationships that support security and mutual respect
If you’ve ever wondered whether secure attachment is possible for you—or how to move toward relationships that feel calmer, safer, and more supportive—this episode offers a compassionate roadmap.
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About Dr. Regina McMenomy, PhD
Regina is a neurodivergent coach and educator who helps late-diagnosed adults unmask, heal from burnout, and build lives aligned with how their brains work. She founded Divergent Paths Consulting to provide the type of coaching and support that late-diagnosed nerdy neurodivergent folks in educational leadership and tech fields need when they receive their late diagnoses.
