When you are faced with trials, you must open your mind to the realtiy of the pain that you are currently in. When you stop taking the responsibility for your life and you give it over to God, then he can truly take over and make the commitment inside of your life to follow His will. You must commit to what is in front of you even if it doesn't align with your desires. Trust that God has a purpose for your life and he wants you to surrender it. He will make it as painful as he needs it to be for you to see what is in front you so you are no longer blind.