In today’s episode, we explore and break down idealization and devaluation. Our co-hosts, Melanie Jones and Dr. Gregory Serfer, offer their perspectives on both sides of the coin, followed by insights into how these patterns affect relationships. Dr. Serfer examines their connection, causes, and presence in other mental health conditions.
Here is the episode breakdown:
Guest:
Book: “I Am Still Right Here”: https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Still-Right-Here/dp/B0BNTZBZFT
Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Gregory-Serfer
In this episode, you will hear:
(Beginning of Interview)
- 1:07 Mel’s Perspective: Idealization and Devaluation
- 4:32 Nicole’s Opening Statement and Beginning Pleasantries
- 5:49 A Breakdown of Idealization (and Idolization)
- 12:52 A Breakdown of Devaluation
- 18:48 Dr. Serfer’s Personal Perspective on Devaluation
- 24:05 Devaluation in Relationships (Parental, Platonic, Romantic, etc)
- 33:06 Idealization and Devaluation In Other Mental Conditions
- 34:14 Causes of Devaluation a.k.a Down the Rabbit Hole
- 36:04 Does Devaluation Interconnect with Idealization?
- 38:35 Trusting Your Gut During Idealization
- 44:38 The Extremes of Idealization and Devaluation
- 49:32 Preservation of Your Mental Health Through Discarding
- 52:48 How Permanent Is the Discard and Split?
- 56:10 Dissociation During A Split or Discard
- 1:03:29 Dr. Serfer’s and Mel’s Final Words
- 1:06:16 Meaning Behind the Term, BPD (continued)
(End of Interview)
Episode Resources:
- Website: https://www.showmegrace.org/
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Credits:
Hosts: Nicole Darby, Dr.Gregory Serfer, Melanie Jones, and Handsome Dan
Sound Engineer: Stefan Mitroi
Research Team: Nicole Darby & Tamar Brignolle
