Jessilyn and Brian Persson introduce part two of their discussion on adversity. Based on CORE, originally created by Paul Stoltz, part one focused on the C and the O, Control and Ownership. This episode explores the R and the E, Reach and Endurance. How far does the adversity reach into our lives and how long is it going to endure? And how do we recognize and make peace with that?
Adversity is a big topic and CORE explains how impactful it can be while also introducing ways of facing it that allow for handling it to the best of our abilities. Jessilyn and Brian explain that the reach adversity has will flow through us, into our partners, into our children, and into our larger families if we are not careful. It can endure for years if we let bitterness take hold and we don’t assess it. They each share examples of large adversity from previous work that led to burnout and health stress within families to demonstrate how reach and endurance creep into daily life. But they also describe how they embraced personal growth, a different mentality, to get around the bitterness to stop the adversity’s continued existence. This is a valuable second part to pair with the first as a guide to dealing with adversity.
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Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:09] Welcome to the Life By Design podcast with your host Jessilyn and Brian Persson. We work with professional couples to help resolve conflict and elevate communication within their relationship.
Brian Persson: [00:00:19] We are the creators of the Discover Define Design framework, which supports you in resolving conflict and communicating better.
Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:26] This episode we're going to talk about adversity part two of CORE, originally created by Paul Stoltz. Our last episode, we focused on the C and the O, which is control and ownership. And we went into unpredictability. This week we're going to go into the R and the E, which is reach and endurance, and we're going to wrap that one up talking about when you're up to big things, it can cause big adversity.
Brian Persson: [00:00:51] Yeah. Reach and Endurance. The way I like to think about reach and endurance versus control and ownership is control and ownership is you can be proactive with it. You know where your control and where your ownership lies. But with reach and endurance, I find for most people it tends to be a lot slipperier. You don't notice it as much, it just kind of as it says, reaches out and grabs on to things. The adversity kind of gets you and the endurance just keeps going and you don't really notice it.
Jessilyn Persson: [00:01:23] Yeah, no, that's a good way, good way to put it. So when we're saying reach like it's one thing to impact you, but the reach we're talking about here is when it rolls into your partner, your children, your work, wherever it's going to reach and it creeps in there. And then endurance is more like, how's it impacting you long term? If you don't like, wrap it up and let it go in a sufficient time manner?
Brian Persson: [00:01:46] Yeah. Reach is like, you know, the waves of a pond, right? It starts with you, goes to your partner, goes to your kids, goes to your family, your extended family, keeps on traveling.
