Jessilyn and Brian Persson address the topic of adversity in today’s episode. Adversity can impact us in many ways and can strike everyone, so they are breaking the subject into two parts. In today’s part one, they focus on the first half of their CORE ideal. CORE stands for Control, Ownership, Reach, and Endurance. Control and Ownership in adversity are the focus of this episode as Jessilyn and Brian break down how to deal with adversity.
Adversity, as Brian explains, is arguments and problems that come with all the stuff living throws at us that impacts our way of life. Adversity comes from a multitude of angles: illness, job loss, destruction of the home, the pandemic, money, and so many more. Jessilyn and Brian use very personal examples from their own lives to illustrate the unpredictable nature of adversity and how it often shatters our sense of control. They explain how accepting what cannot be controlled about adverse situations makes them easier to handle and get through. They detail how taking ownership of what must be managed, within the strengths that we have, is how to move forward. The three takeaways they share - control, ownership, and that adversity is unpredictable - offer guidance and a plan for tackling adversity together.
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Transcript
Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:10] Welcome to the Life by Design podcast with your hosts, Jessilyn and Brian Persson. We work with professional couples to help resolve conflict and elevate communication within their relationship.
Brian Persson: [00:00:20] We are the creators of the Discover Define Design framework, which supports you in resolving conflict and communicating better.
Jessilyn Persson: [00:00:27] This week our topic is on adversity. Adversity can impact us in so many ways, and because it does strike everyone, we're actually going to break this into a two part series. And in our two part series, we're going to focus on what we call CORE. And that stands for Control, Ownership, Reach and Endurance when it comes to adversity. So this part one is going to focus on the C and O, Control and Ownership, of adversity. So Brian, what is adversity?
Brian Persson: [00:01:00] Yeah. Well in relationships it happens a lot as everyone out there probably knows. There's a, you know, you and your partner, you and your family, you and your kids often engage in arguments and problems of all sorts. And that's pretty well what adversity is. It's all the stuff of life that comes at you and tries to impact your way of life.
Jessilyn Persson: [00:01:25] Yeah. And that, I mean, can come from angles unknown. It can be anything from an illness, job loss, destruction to the home, the pandemic, whichever one experienced.
Brian Persson: [00:01:37] Pandemic is a huge one, yeah.
Jessilyn Persson: [00:01:38] So why is it important?
Brian Persson: [00:01:40] Because you have to face it. It's going to happen. There's no way to avoid adversity in life. There's no way to avoid adversity in your relationship. And there's no way to move forward. Especially moving forward you have to experience adversity in order to get anything new and anything bigger in life.
