In this episode, Loraine reflects on her experiences living in Spain with her partner and their plans for retirement. Despite their initial excitement, the relationship faces challenges as her partner's work takes him away from home frequently. Loraine recounts moments of joy, such as the celebration of buying their new home, but also moments of anguish, including her partner expressing regret over the purchase. The episode also touches on personal losses, such as the passing of her partner's mother, and the emotional strain caused by the Brexit referendum. Loraine's diary entries reveal her feelings of being dismissed and emotionally abused by her partner, leading her to question the future of their relationship and contemplate her own independence.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Loraine and her partner had been in a relationship for eight years, but despite living together, they were often apart due to work commitments.
Loraine's partner initially expressed excitement and happiness about buying a retirement home in Spain, but later expressed regret and dissatisfaction with the purchase.
Loraine experienced a series of negative events in 2016, including her own illness, the death of her partner's mother, and a flood in their home.
Loraine felt dismissed and emotionally abused by her partner, particularly in regards to her attempts to start her own business.
Loraine expressed feelings of uncertainty and a desire to make a change in her life, contemplating whether to return to the UK or find a new place to stay in Spain.
BEST MOMENTS:
"I was committed to that relationship...despite the fact that I had moved to York to be with him in his house, we were not really together."
"He suddenly started saying that he had made a huge mistake, that he should not have bought the house...Now here he was telling me he had made a mistake just a few weeks after buying the property."
"I had just spent a week in the UK staying in a hotel with him due to the water damage at his house...after the disastrous outcome of the Brexit vote, I had asked them not to talk about their views when he got back to Spain."
"Why, when I want to share something with you about my business, do you dismiss it as unimportant or ask me questions like, 'and this is good because'...You make me feel so stupid."
"I think I've made a huge mistake...Because I thought you were my protector, my lover, my friend, my rock, when times get tough. But now it seems you are not the person I thought you were."
HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D's in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.
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