CORRECTION: We hold Scripture in high regard and in this episode, we got a little confused on some details so we want to address that here. The account to which we refer of Cain and Abel is found in Genesis 4. Abel actually kept flocks, and Cain worked with fruit of the soil. Scripture says Cain brought "some of fruits" to God; Abel brought select "fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock." Can you see the difference in detail and the forethought? the heart behind the behavior?
In this episode we discuss choosing to bring in sibling connection rather than accept "sibling rivalry" as well as disconnecting the word "proud" from performance. We also discuss the parental investment of time, money and protection of margin, as well as relational rupture and repair.
SHOW NOTES:
Flow chart image of attachment cycle. Remember disruption can be from world (i.e. wave) or from one or the other person. As the caregiver, the repair is crucial either way.
Connection Activity: Complete a Team carry (with 2 people)! Hook hands like the photo and balance a bean bag or sock filled with rice on top as you go through an obstacle course or playground. Switch partners if more than 2 in family and repeat with others cheering you on. You can also team carry with a bucket of water hanging on a bat or stick. Try not to spill the water.
Resources: Connection quizzes in Dannah Gresh books 6 Ways to Keep the Good in Your Boy and 6 Ways to Keep the Little in Your Girl
Bonus resources: 1) Teamwork in the home bloghttps://www.platimebox.com/blog-1/2020/3/6/key-purpose-highlight-teamwork.
2) Parent checklist blog https://www.platimebox.com/blog-1/2018/1/8/parents-intent-and-investment-in-sibling-relationship
3)Helping siblings plan for and give attention to each other https://www.platimebox.com/blog-1/2017/6/5/platime-with-multiple-children-part-3
4) Alone time helps manage and train attention needs https://www.platimebox.com/blog-1/2017/17/5/alone-time
