This episode is mostly about studying the kids, but it is beneficial to study yourself and your spouse to the degree they will agree to share. It is simply from a heart of interest; not to manipulate. Perspectives cannot be "right" or "wrong". Every perspective is from a certain angle and therefore is missing some information to see the whole. Two or more perspectives can multiply the beauty of something and optimize the view of a problem or conflict.
SHOW NOTES AND RESOURCES:
Connection Activity : For couples, the date at the bottom of this blog post: https://www.platimebox.com/blog-1/2019/5/19/perspective-pla-activity
Resource: Adults watch for yourselves...Anthony Browne agrees vehemently that you should never let yourself "outgrow" a picture book and this one has so much to reveal!! We prefer this particular one because it gives the viewer extra time with the pictures. **notice how the trees change with each voice Voices in the Park book by Anthony Browne read aloud video https://youtu.be/kyCUnHLe88s
For more study:
1)Development: Ready Reference chart https://pin.it/1D73ESe https://pin.it/1Jq4Ea0
Ch. 4 & 5 - Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
Ch. 4 & 5 - Dannah Gresh books 6 Ways to Keep the Good in Your Boy or 6 Ways to Keep the Little in Your Girl
2)Fear development stages: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/List-of-Childrens-Top-Worries-by-Age-2430926
3)Personal or Collective traumas
4)Learning style: overview - https://www.wikihow.com/Determine-Your-Child%27s-Learning-Style
5)Current Influences- music, media, social media, top 3 closest friends, which coach, mentor, or teacher would they go to for advice, what teacher/coach are they with most time out of the day, books,
6)Temperament:https://youtu.be/QTg-dGI-jaY https://youtu.be/yBr4XNu-KyI
7)Birth Order: Kevin Leman's New Birth Order book
8)Love Languages: Gary Chapman https://www.5lovelanguages.com/store/the-5-love-languages-of-children / https://www.5lovelanguages.com/store/a-teens-guide-to-the-5-love-languages
9) Strengths: https://www.amazon.com/StrengthsFinder-2-0-Tom-Rath/dp/159562015X https://www.lifehack.org/890036/childs-strengths
10) how they would like to celebrate their birthday or an achievement
11) what activities energize / what activities drain
12) Any labels they are including in their identity ( compliments or complaints others say about them repeatedly)
