We are talking about a simple communication strategy that you can use to clarify your own needs for yourself in any given moment, particularly in times of stress or challenge. This is also a wonderful tool to use when interacting with others who may need something, but you aren’t quite sure what you should give them, how to show up for them if you want to, or what they are really asking for. By asking yourself or others this question: What do I/you need right now…do I/you need to be helped, heard or hugged, (or a combination of these), we clarify needs. This creates clarity to ask for what we want so we can either: give it to ourselves, request it from others, or offer it as a gift to others to help them clarify there needs and meet the request if we are willing and able . And, when you are interacting with others, particularly if someone is going through something challenging, we can overtly ask them this question as a way to clarify in an abbreviated way what they are truly needing/wanting in this moment. Its a simple way to honor and name what is needed and have a greater chance of both people being more fulfilled by interactions and more deeply connected.
