Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded there.” This quote has many meanings we’ll explore today, but it’s main message is you’ll accomplish your goals with little competition if you’re willing to go farther than most others.
This episode is a follow-up to last week when we looked at how to reframe discouragement to maintain our determination.
This week’s lesson is what to do with that determination.
We know to reframe discouragement to keep our determination up.
But how do we aim that determination? Where do we go with it or because of it?
First remember less is more when it comes to confidence especially to deal with bullies. Always keep the BF principles in mind. Less is more!
When you go the extra mile in school or with a hobby or friendship, do you simply make more of an effort toward that effort or person? No! If you think about it, going the extra mile means doing what nobody else thought to do or even could do.
The extra mile is the same with a bully. It means you do what few others do.
When we go the extra mile we don’t do extra, we do the extraordinary.
Determination to beat a bully means you do what nobody dares to do.
You push past the barriers that stand between you and your goal.
Some of the barriers are imagined, some are real. Some are warnings, some are risks, some are real threats, most are paper tigers.
Calculate the level of physical safety risk and go from there. If you feel it's too risky, back off and involve the adults and authority figures. If it's unlikely to be a danger, proceed.
Please go back to episode 4 to learn more about determining a bully's threat level.
Push right through those barriers. NO MATTER WHAT!
This is the secret ingredient to every win: At some point the winner looks past every barrier they’ve got to get to the other side.
But how?? Everything you want is on the other side of fear, but how do put your determination ahead of any fear?
Here it is, the thing nobody wants to hear, but they have to:
To beat a bully, you have to be willing to say, “Forget it, I’m going all in no matter what! Whatever comes can’t be as bad as staying stuck here.”
You have to say to yourself, “Deep down I’d rather put up with the bully’s worst than one more day of being under their thumb!”
It’s true. No matter what comes from standing up can’t be as bad as this cycle.
Next time we’ll go into how to stand up without being defensive, but before you can do that you must decide to be over this!
