My favorite question to ask myself before I face something stressful is What would this be like if it was easy?
Questions like the one above are designed to make you stop listening to the voice in your head, and focus on your inner knowing or gut feeling instead?
Many experts in the world of helping others or self-help, encourage people to ask themselves questions that move focus away from the voice and into their inner knowing.
The idea is to get to the bare minimum that needs to be done in order to move on, which is in keeping with bully food principles: Keep it simple, low effort, boring, and direct (or kind).
The best way to start practicing is to pick stressful overwhelming situations that aren’t to do with your bully at first. Find the easiest way to do your chores, the fastest way to do a boring HW assignment, the easy way to get to sleep quickly or ready in the morning. Whenever you face a new problem, apply the questions. You’ll get into the habit of thinking in terms of ease and rely on your inner knowing vs your mental chatter. Next time we’ll break down the voice inside your head in more detail.
