Embodiment, Consent, and Leaving a Sexless Marriage: Skylar Lyralen Kaye on Queer Intimacy and Self-Love
Non-binary, gender-fluid writer and solo performer Skylar Lyralen Kaye discusses their work on intimacy, queerness, and mental health, and describes a day-to-day life grounded in solitude, meditation, yoga, hiking, and paddleboarding after moving from the US to Portugal, which they find safer, more peaceful, and less achievement-driven.
They redefine success as quality of life, joy, love, and inner peace, and explain how embodiment practices and theater training helped release trauma-held “armor,” highlighting limits of talk therapy and the importance of somatic work. Skylar recounts leaving a 35-year sexless marriage in their sixties after recognizing asexuality, grief-related disconnection, and awakening sexual energy, then navigating queer online dating, boundaries, and consent. They share how they handle vulnerability in memoir/performing through craft, distance, and universality, and emphasize self-love through integrating shadow and inner parts while embracing a quieter, happier future.
00:00 Meet Skylar Kaye
00:45 Daily Life and Solitude
02:15 Portugal vs America
05:02 Redefining Success
09:37 Embodiment Breakthrough
13:20 Somatic Healing Beyond Talk
19:24 Social Media and Self Worth
22:01 Leaving a Long Marriage
29:12 Dating Again and Boundaries
32:56 Consent Culture in Practice
38:57 Sharing Intimacy on Stage
39:52 Gut Check Boundaries
41:57 Memoir Not Diary
43:36 Queer Story Duty
46:04 Learning Self Love
52:11 Nature Connection
57:16 Aging Wisdom Access
01:04:23 Bridging Generations
01:09:48 Why Publish Memoir
01:15:36 One Step Unstuck
01:19:42 Future In Portugal
