I remember a moment years ago, sitting in a seminar. The woman next to me was fidgeting, shifting in her seat, unable to get comfortable. As the day went on, I saw her face contort. She looked like she was in agony. She wanted to be there, she wanted to learn, but something was physically stopping her.
I leaned over and asked, "What's wrong?" She told me she had just gotten breast implants and was in a lot of pain. I immediately thought of a technique I had learned from a video. It was a way of working with the mind’s perception of pain. It seemed too simple to be real, but I had to ask. "Do you want to get rid of the pain?" She said "yes".
The Point-and-Click Technique I guided her through a simple process I call "point-and-click" therapy. I asked her to point to where the pain was. Then, I asked for the first color that came to mind. "Now," I said, "pull that color out of your body." She mimed the action.
I continued, "Notice that color is spinning. Which direction is it moving? Forward? Backwards?" She told me. "Now, double the speed. Double the amplitude. Double the force." She followed along, her eyes closed, concentrating.
Finally, I said, "Now, put the energy back in. Notice what happens in your body."
She opened her eyes, stunned. The pain was gone. Completely. It had vanished.
More Than a Party Trick This wasn't a one-off miracle. I started using this with everyone I could. People with chronic headaches, old knee injuries, back pain that had plagued them for years. Again and again, the pain would dissolve. It wasn't about the physical injury itself, but about the pattern the nervous system had locked onto.
This showed me something fundamental. A lot of physical pain is just the tip of the iceberg. Beneath it, there’s almost always an underlying emotion—a trapped feeling, a past shock, a belief that we’re not safe. If you can solve for the emotion, if you can reprogram the nervous system's response, the physical pain often has no reason to stay.
The KFC and the Nervous System Think about how this works. I once met a man who could not eat KFC. He told me a story: years ago, he saw someone bite into a piece of chicken, only to find a strange, white, gooey substance inside. He wasn't even the one eating it, but witnessing that moment created a powerful imprint.
From that day on, he never touched KFC again. But it went deeper. Just thinking about KFC would make his stomach churn. He would feel nauseous, on the verge of throwing up. This is the nervous system at work. It had associated the thought of KFC with the primal feeling of disgust and danger, creating a full-body response.
This is a mild version of what we call Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). PTSD isn't just a memory; it's a nervous system hijacking. You’ve witnessed or experienced something, and it has wired itself into your system. Later, a trigger—a sound, a smell, a thought—can send you right back into that state of fear, helplessness, or pain. It affects your sleep, your relationships, and your ability to feel safe.
Your Relationship with Everything If your nervous system is out of control, it doesn't just affect trauma. It affects everything. It affects the way you think about money. It can create a feeling of scarcity or fear around abundance. It can affect your ability to connect with others. It can keep you stuck in patterns of behavior that you know aren't good for you.
True empowerment, true happiness and fulfillment, isn't just about positive thinking. It's about going deeper. It’s about upgrading the operating system itself. It’s about nervous system reprogramming. When you calm the system, when you release those old trapped patterns, you create space for a new way of being. You can finally be, do, and have the things you once believed were impossible.
