Acknowledging, recognizing, & reflecting are the guard rails on the road to acceptance. Resistance is in the path to acceptance. So, let’s walk through the layers. Denial starts the minute we hear or become aware of something that rocks us to the core. Next our mind shifts to anger, frustration & aggression. We then begin to realize we may be able to talk ourselves out of the current reality, so we begin bargaining, a nuanced version of denial. Depression is close behind leaving us feeling empty and numb, energy has left our being. The seed of acceptance takes root now and we see the light at the end of the tunnel. Now we arrive at acceptance and are glad this roller coaster is over. Wow, that was rough. The layers just described can overlap and will slightly be different in detail for each of us, however this is the framework. Do you recognize the process within yourself? Does this sound familiar? The key is to honor the feelings that arise, process, own and deal as they unfold. Denial of the process will only prolong it, and sadly many of us get stuck in one layer of the process and become prisoners of it. This is a very taxing reality to experience. The process is the same for accepting an egotistical character trait that we have. This is the internal work; this is the process in slaying our own dragons. Many of our unhealed traumas get so pushed down inside of us we imagine they are non-existent, until something random resurrects them.
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