Being single isn’t a waiting room. It’s the classroom. The mirror. The runway. The f*cking launchpad.
In this richly layered episode, I'm joined by Fanny Tristan, trauma-informed LCSW turned coach and founder of Her Soul Supply, to unpack the emotional gymnastics so many women perform in the pursuit of being chosen by a partner, by their family, by society.
We talk love, loneliness, lifestyle design, and what happens when women stop outsourcing worth and start reclaiming their voice. From navigating breakups and identity shifts to dismantling systems that tell women they’re “too much” or “too late,” this conversation is a full-body permission slip to rewrite your story on your terms.
If you’ve ever felt behind, unworthy, or like you needed to shrink to fit the timeline... this episode is for you.
🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:
00:01 – Meet Fanny
04:10 – The loneliness epidemic post-2020 + rebuilding real community
07:50 – Brunch, boundaries, and the awkwardness of adult friendships
10:35 – The myth of “having it all” by 30 and how timelines betray us
13:00 – How systemic oppression shapes self-worth for women of color
15:45 – Building identity outside of partnership and parenthood
21:00 – Singlehood as a goldmine for growth, not a failure to fix
27:15 – Parts work, projection, and how we misread each other
30:00 – The mom-friend vs single-friend divide: how we lose each other
33:00 – Letting people love all your identities—and asking for what you need
36:15 – The rebellion vs self-preservation dilemma (hello, plastic surgery guilt)
39:40 – Pleasure, sex, and the myth that motherhood = martyrdom
42:10 – Why we pedestal romantic love—and what that costs us
46:00 – Self-abandonment, chosen-ness, and not lowering your damn standards
50:20 – The SHIFT framework in action for single women feeling “behind”
58:15 – Walking the walk vs memorizing the infographics
60:30 – Transformation doesn’t have to be a whole damn identity shift
63:00 – Therapy vs Coaching: where they overlap and where they divide
67:00 – Fanny’s final message: freedom is a value, not a milestone
🧠 Connect with Fanny Tristan + Her Soul Supply
🌐 Her Soul Supply Website
📲 Instagram — @fanny.tristan
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