Today, I want to discuss something interesting with you, my fellow brothers, as we embark on the journey of becoming real men. Being a man is more than just physical attributes like height or weight. It's about being fully alive, present, and connected to our passion and purpose. It means pursuing a life on fire, embracing our emotions, and not getting stuck in a state of perpetual boyhood. I'm talking about men who are ready to make a transformation.
This transition usually happens when a marriage starts breaking down and things don't go as planned. We may initially try to change ourselves, making promises and seeking guidance from our partners. However, this approach rarely works. Our wives shouldn't have to tell us what to do to make them happy or list all the changes we need to make. They already see the potential within us, the man we can become. The problem lies in our own self-perception, clouded by external influences and personal baggage. To reach our fullest potential as men, we need to show up authentically, exactly as God created us.
When men awaken to this reality, they begin doing the work, delving into their emotions, and discovering their true selves. Initially, this process may involve uncovering deeper feelings beyond surface-level anger. We start exploring our emotions and connecting with our partners on a more profound level. This flood of understanding reveals how we've been treating our wives and paves the way for positive change. We become alive, shedding the layers of rust that held us back, and begin moving, speaking, and connecting in ways we never have before.
So, if you find yourself in the recovery phase, striving to rebuild trust and reconnect with your wife, remember that it's a marathon, not a quick fix. You're navigating uncharted territory as a transformed man, and it will take time for her to fully embrace the new you. She may hold onto the past version of you for a while, and your job is to keep showing up consistently as the man you've become. Be there for her, support her, and fight for her heart every single day. She may express anger or frustration, but that's part of the process. Your unwavering presence and love will eventually break down her walls.
Today, I want to leave you with a simple question: What action can you take today to show your wife that you love her? Don't wait. Take that step and let her know that you're committed to being the man she wants you to become.
"In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church." - Ephesians 5:28-29
Blessings on your path,
Rev. Benjamin Norman
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