Randi Buckley writes and coaches emotionally aware, deeply contemplative women toward finding their truth, with depth and beauty, with life’s big questions and sticky situations. She is the creator of “Maybe Baby" - When you hear this whisper of “maybe” in your heart”, “Healthy Boundaries for Kind People”, and “The Viking Woman Workshop”. Today we discuss the nature of ambivalence and our experiences with it. You can reach Randi at www.randibuckley.com.
As Randi covers the following areas of ambivalence about having children, you can expect to hear:
- Randi knew as a 6-7-year-old girl that she didn’t want to have children because she equated having a child with NOT being a feminist.
- She never saw herself as a mother and was horrified when she heard the whisper of “maybe” in her late 30's.
- Randi found that many of her beliefs about motherhood and childbearing were not her own, but were society-driven.
- Randi had initially believed that motherhood would make her into all the things she didn’t want to be.
- It’s ok to be ambivalent, but some people (especially well-meaning mothers) will try to talk you out of your ambivalence.
- Each woman is the only one who can decide what’s right for her.
- We have the responsibility to have compassion for the different roles women play and appreciate those roles.
- You can reserve the right to change your mind about what you want for your life - at any time.
- “Maybe Baby” is a 6-week self-study course in which several hundred women have participated. The course teaches you how to find what’s true for you and how to be at peace with it.
Wise Words: “What’s right for me probably isn’t right for you!”
I hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss in depth our experiences with ambivalence. Would love for you to comment on the post at michellemariemcgrath.com
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