In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Adam Lane Smith, a licensed psychotherapist and highly sought-after relationship expert.
Why he does what he does today. (4:45)
What is Attachment Theory and how can it affect you as an adult? (5:59)
Cooperating in conflict. (11:14)
Breaking down the 4 Styles of Attachment. (14:09)
Why are the women the first to ask for a divorce? (19:55)
Old knowledge that has been lost. (23:36)
Why men need to feel powerful. (28:06)
Understanding the order of operations with your partner. (32:12)
Which attachments attract each other? (35:41)
Marriage glue. (41:05)
The four pieces of relationship security. (44:32)
The murkiness with the division of labor. (49:56)
The poor messaging to young men. (54:47)
Why women are in a no-win circumstance right now. (58:57)
Why kids are so anxious and depressed. (1:01:43)
The ramifications of too much access to pornography. (1:04:05)
Why a booty call does not turn into a marriage. (1:06:48)
The biggest challenges with modern life. (1:10:13)
Why we are more like chimps than bonobos. (1:11:52)
His thoughts on dating apps. (1:15:44)
The four characteristics of a good father. (1:25:03)
How most parents do not have a relationship with their kids, they manage them. (1:28:40)
Tactical rituals to be a better father. (1:31:09)
Why phones are one of the BIGGEST killers of sex. (1:37:05)
The role of the father during pregnancy. (1:41:00)
Why women with attachment issues have issues breastfeeding. (1:45:40)
The importance of leading your partner into healthier attachment. (1:48:10)
Run your marriage like a business and it will thrive. (1:49:55)
Why homeschool? (1:53:57)
The value in having oxytocin bonding routinely with your partner.(1:56:22)
The pros and cons of psychedelics. (2:00:37)
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