I love feedback. I love seeing and hearing how I show up in the world. Because I can't see myself. I know what's going on inside me, but have no clue what that looks like in action.
In my writing class I told a story about my fears and anxieties before my second wedding and how the stress led to an eye injury that's hilarious. I thought that was the part of the story that was special.
But after sharing in class, it was reflected back to me that the part of the story that was compelling wasn't the black eye (you'll have to listen to learn more), but the self doubts I had about marrying Jeremy. No doubts in Jeremy. Lots of doubt in myself. Because I'd been married before and made a whole slew of mistakes. How could I be sure I wasn't messing up again? How could I be sure Jeremy really loved me and wouldn't abandon me? How could I be sure that my trauma and baggage wouldn't pollute this? Us? Him?
Through the feedback I got to "hear" my story in a new way. I now understand my experience and myself in a deeper way. Because something I thought was unremarkable turned out to be quite remarkable. So I wonder...what else am I missing?
Anyway, the episode is really good and listen to the end because I have a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!
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