So often, our behaviors are motivated by conflicting and competing objectives.
Love
Empathy
Compassion
Altruism
But just beneath lurks our hidden agenda.
People pleasing
Perfectionism
Conflict Avoidance
Worthiness + Approval Seeking
How can we tell the difference?
How can we identify what’s driving our behavior in a given moment — and intervene to redirect it?
Only when we know what we’re truly seeking can we ever hope to find it.
“People pleasing comes from a place of lack, and love comes from a place of abundance."— Jenna
“When we’re motivated by love, we don’t need to compromise our values."— Jenna
“Shame is an outcome of people pleasing and perfectionism."— Jenna
“Tell the compassionate truth."— Ashley
The origins of people pleasing versus the origins of love
The tension between people pleasing, boundaries, and values
What it feels like to give and receive love versus people pleasing
Tools for telling the difference between people pleasing and love
Developing your own personal commandments
MFTP Episode 107: The Middle Finger Project with Ash Ambirge
Share the Eff Perfect love with a fellow perfectionist, procrastinator, or people pleaser by hitting those buttons on the right, babe!
And because we’re in this together, be sure to take the Eff Perfect Pledge.
