This week we talk about lesson's learned from Christian B's experience of loosing his temper and breaking his hand after punching his solid oak front door. Is it a common experience among men to loose our tempers and react in a sinful way?
NOTES:
- This Weeks Whiskey: Wild Turkey Rare Bread Bourbon (Barrel Proof - 116 proof)
- Arturo Fuentes & Rocky Patel cigars
- Christian H. just got back from a real estate conference and vacation with his wife in Cabo San Lucas (with eXp Realty)
- Christian B. got the Rona... and brakes his hand.
- Christian B. get's transparent in talking about finding his limit of how much he can take on in his life before he snaps
- What practice safe-guards do you have in place for when your anger is boiling over and you feel yourself loosing control?
- Not everyone responds with loosing their cool with a physically violent response. What are some other unhealthy ways we respond when we get angry?
- Anger
- Isolation
- Irritability
- Depression
- Trying to control every detail of your world / surroundings
- Being overly physical with your kids when you're frustrated
- Shaming your kids or wife (not controlling your language or tongue)
- Proverbs 3:5-6 - 5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. 6 In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
- Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart
- Lean NOT on your own understanding
- In ALL your ways, acknowledge Him... and HE will direct your path (a promise)
- If we are truly being dependent on God, we would know our limit, not try to rely on our own strength and understanding and our disposition will be more in-line with Christ's and we won't loose control in our frustration and perhaps not even get angry
- When relying on our own strength and understanding, we may be able to modify our behavior enough to not loose control and break our hand by punching a door... but is there still anger and rage burning in our heart?
- Is the belief that you can take on most things, what leads you to the tipping-point of getting overwhelmed, stressed, frustrated and angry? We are trying to be our own functional savior... separate from God and self-reliant.
- We need to allow more "white space" in our lives and learn what we need to say "no" to, so that we can say "yes" to God and what he has for us. Leave room in our lives and schedule for God to work.
- Spending time with God and in His word are key and should be "non-negotiable" in our daily lives, as it replenishes your soul and reminds us of our dependents on God.
- Practical suggestions:
- Regular date night with your spouse, to connect, confess, and continually get to know each other.
- Don't believe Satan's lie that you can do all things, by your self, isolated and without help
- Don't believe the lie that you can't be honest and vulnerable with your spouse... they love you and will not shame you or think less of you when you share with them and need God
- What do we do with our shame when we do fail or fall short. Does that feeling reflect reality or are we believing a lie that temps us to withdraw and isolate, or try harder to be more self-reliant and strong (instead of dependent on God)
- The sufficiency of Christ's death on the cross to forgive us of our sins, is paramount in freeing us from our shame and feelings of needing to be perfect or self-sufficient.
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