There's a subtle tension that happens when you want something deeply… but you're gripping tightly to how it needs to happen.
In this episode, I unpack what it really means to surrender the "how." Not from a place of passivity, but from trust. We talk about control, urgency, attachment to outcomes, and the quiet anxiety that shows up when we believe it's all on us to figure everything out.
If you've been striving, forcing, pushing, or trying to control every step forward — this episode will feel like a deep exhale.
Surrender isn't giving up.
It's releasing the illusion that you have to orchestrate every detail.
00:00 – 01:00 — What "surrender the how" actually means
01:00 – 02:30 — The anxiety underneath control
02:30 – 04:00 — Why gripping tighter doesn't create safety
04:00 – 05:30 — The difference between intention and attachment
05:30 – 07:15 — Trust vs. passivity
07:15 – 08:45 — When urgency blocks alignment
08:45 – 10:15 — Releasing timelines and rigid expectations
10:15 – 11:30 — Choosing trust without losing momentum
Control often masks fear
Urgency is not the same as alignment
You can hold vision without gripping the process
Surrender doesn't mean inaction — it means trust
Letting go of the "how" creates space for better outcomes
If you're in a season of striving, forcing, or trying to make something happen and you're craving grounded clarity instead, I offer private Clarity Sessions to help you reconnect with trust and aligned action.
✨ These are honest, steady conversations — not surface-level coaching.
👉 Learn more or book here:
🌐 https://www.stephaniesnyderphd.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephaniesnyderphd
Website: https://www.stephaniesnyderphd.com
surrender the how, letting go of control, trust the process, releasing attachment, feminine leadership, alignment over urgency, manifestation and trust, personal growth podcast, self trust, control vs surrender
There's a subtle tension that happens when you want something deeply… but you're gripping tightly to how it needs to happen.
In this episode, I unpack what it really means to surrender the "how." Not from a place of passivity, but from trust. We talk about control, urgency, attachment to outcomes, and the quiet anxiety that shows up when we believe it's all on us to figure everything out.
If you've been striving, forcing, pushing, or trying to control every step forward — this episode will feel like a deep exhale.
Surrender isn't giving up.
It's releasing the illusion that you have to orchestrate every detail.
00:00 – 01:00 — What "surrender the how" actually means
01:00 – 02:30 — The anxiety underneath control
02:30 – 04:00 — Why gripping tighter doesn't create safety
04:00 – 05:30 — The difference between intention and attachment
05:30 – 07:15 — Trust vs. passivity
07:15 – 08:45 — When urgency blocks alignment
08:45 – 10:15 — Releasing timelines and rigid expectations
10:15 – 11:30 — Choosing trust without losing momentum
Control often masks fear
Urgency is not the same as alignment
You can hold vision without gripping the process
Surrender doesn't mean inaction — it means trust
Letting go of the "how" creates space for better outcomes
If you're in a season of striving, forcing, or trying to make something happen and you're craving grounded clarity instead, I offer private Clarity Sessions to help you reconnect with trust and aligned action.
✨ These are honest, steady conversations — not surface-level coaching.
👉 Learn more or book here:
🌐 https://www.stephaniesnyderphd.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephaniesnyderphd
Website: https://www.stephaniesnyderphd.com
surrender the how, letting go of control, trust the process, releasing attachment, feminine leadership, alignment over urgency, manifestation and trust, personal growth podcast, self trust, control vs surrender
