What if the thing you keep avoiding is actually the doorway to your next level?
In this solo episode, Marsha pulls back the curtain on the internal resistance that shows up when growth is knocking. This is an honest, grounded conversation about the tension between comfort and expansion, the stories we cling to, and the subtle ways we sabotage the very things we say we want.
Marsha explores what it really means to take responsibility for your life without shame, how to recognize when you’re playing small, and why clarity often comes after action, not before it.
This one is reflective, direct, and quietly activating.
Highlights
(01:41) – The fear that stops so many writers: “What if I hurt someone?”
(02:40) – Writing from a victim mindset attracts more anger and resentment — and won’t create the results you want.
(03:46) – You are not meant to tell the story from 10 perspectives — only from your own.
(04:48) – You can share your story without making yourself or anyone else the villain.
(05:08) – Can you write as though the person you’re afraid of hurting is in the room?
(06:29) – You can keep your side of the street clean — you cannot control someone else’s internal representation.
(08:13) – Blame and ownership sit on opposite ends of the spectrum.
(08:46) – The NLP question: Where am I not at cause in my life?
(10:50) – Does this part of my story help someone move forward — or keep them stuck?
(13:26) – If you take readers deep into the darkness, you must also show them how to rise.
Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
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