Conditioning through our upbringing and culture is a given. Unconsciously we take the deep divisions and dislikes we feel inside and about ourselves projecting them outwards, especially onto our children.
Projecting my stuff onto my daughter, she becomes the location of the disliked parts in me. When I perceive something is "wrong" with her I believe I am helping her if I can work to change her behavior. The truth though is I've been conditioned to believe I am "wrong" when I perceive that behavior inside myself. I've seen myself through the foggy glasses and therefore take out my pain on my daughter.
