In 2019, Robert Hunt and his wife Cathy sat down and did the math they'd been avoiding: $90,000 in debt, not counting the house or the cars. They'd spent years angry at God, angry at the economy, angry at their clients, asking why the blessings weren't coming. Robert says God's answer, as he heard it, was blunt: "I gave you so much money. What'd you do with it all?" So they sold the house, paid off every dollar, and moved into a rental. They were debt-free the week COVID shut down the world. Robert calls that the moment he stopped being responsible and started being accountable, and he says most of us have no idea there's a difference.
Robert is known as "The Accountability Guy," a business owner in the Dallas-Fort Worth area who's run CEO peer groups since 2013 and co-authored the book Nobody Cares Until You Do. We get into why owning your life isn't the same thing as being responsible for it (responsible is showing up to therapy, accountable is doing the work after), why "I can't" is almost always "I won't" wearing a disguise, and the blunt, almost funny gut-check his wife's dad taught her: if it's 10:30 in the morning and you've already run into three jerks today, you're the common denominator, not them.
We also talk about the shame that keeps people blame-shifting instead of owning their part, and why Robert believes you were born a 10 and you'll die a 10, no matter how badly you're currently playing the role in front of you.
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Robert Hunt, known as "The Accountability Guy," is a business owner in the Dallas-Fort Worth area who has run executive CEO peer groups since 2013. He is the co-author of Nobody Cares Until You Do, written with his wife Cathy after they paid off $90,000 in debt and rebuilt their marriage, finances, and health around the practice of true accountability.
Learn more about his coaching and CEO groups at REFDallas.com, take the free satisfaction assessment or learn about the book at NobodyCaresBook.com, or fill out the contact form at NobodyCaresPod.com with the code word PHOENIX for a free copy of the book, an offer Robert made on the show to listeners who reach out that way.
"Nobody cares if we're broke and unhappy in our marriage and frustrated with our finances and our business until we care enough to do something about it." —Robert Hunt
"Responsible is doing something. Accountable is owning it and doing the thing." —Robert Hunt
"You were born a 10 and you will die a 10. ...The role that you play, you may suck as an employee, you may struggle as a spouse, you may struggle as a parent. That's the role you play. But no role will ever be any higher than the identity you give yourself as a human." —Robert Hunt
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