The game is asymmetrical. Life is not fair. Doesn’t matter. Play to win the game.
You’re Single Because Your Emotions Gave Her The Ick
Ah, the ultimate ick source. A man expressing their emotions is kind of the inverse of the speech in Barbie about how it's impossible to be a woman.
It's easy. A man must be in touch with and transparent about his emotions, but must also be in conscious control over them, without repressing them, while choosing strategically when to be and not be transparent about them, and ultimately be fine, such that we will also be fine if all that information we shared can then be shared with others or used as a weapon.
Express your emotions. No, not those, and definitely not like that. But do it.
That's the goal. If you say that's not fair? Well, life it's fair, I report the facts rather than make the rules, and the whole thing sounds like a you problem.
Kryssy La Reida: Serious question for men…what is it that makes you feel like you are in a relationship with a woman that you can’t express your feelings to? Or [...]
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Outline:
(00:19) You're Single Because Your Emotions Gave Her The Ick
(05:03) You Are Still Single Because You Don't Know When To Show Emotions
(07:58) You're Single Because You Don't Have Enough Gendered Energy
(09:29) You're Single And I Have To Praise You Like I Should
(12:17) You're Single Because You Guessed Wrong On Paying For The Date
(15:02) You're Single But Not Because You Make Too Much Money
(16:35) You're Single Because You Gave Someone A Ride
(19:15) You're Single Because You Left The Price Tag On But It's For The Best
(20:37) You're Single So You At Least Get To Keep Your Upgrade
(22:13) You're Single Because You Tried To Problem Solve
(23:50) You're Single Because You Were Actually A Crazy Stalker
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First published:
January 12th, 2026
Source:
https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/zphaHyABxMEDqNQ7K/dating-roundup-10-gendered-expectations
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