What Not To Say To Hurting Friends
Job 15-21
Why does God give us THREE sets of speeches?
Round 2 Big Question: What Should We Say?
Eliphaz’ Second Speech
“Our message (that your suffering is caused by your sin) is ancient, time-tested wisdom.” (15:17-20)
Bildad’s Second Speech
“The wicked are punished by God and lose their inheritance in the future.” (18:5, 18-21)
Zophar’s Second Speech
“The joy and prosperity of the wicked are brief because God will take away their blessings.” (20:4-5, 27-29)
Job Responds
“Your empty words are a miserable comfort.” (16:1-5)
“You scoff at me and mock me while I weep.” (16:18-22)
“Your words provide no hope for my hurting heart.” (17:13-16)
“Your words crush and humiliate me.” (19:1-3)
“Your words persecute me.” (19:21-22, 28-29)
“Suffering in this world doesn’t make sense.” (21:7-9, 23-26)
“Your words are deceptive and unhelpful.” (21:34)
Key Takeaways:
Speak only what God has said – not more than He has said.
Unkind words cut deeply and leave wounds.
Extend the same grace to others that you have received.
In grief, people need an advocate, not a judge.
