There are few things as painful as being betrayed by someone you trusted. It shakes our world and shatters our trust in others and our faith in ourselves. This week, we talk about how to deal with the pain of betrayal and steps of courage we can take to build back a level of trust that allows to maintain healthy, fulfilling relationships.
This Week’s Listener Question:
I’ve been betrayed by my husband. I’ve built everything in my life with him. Now my entire future feels shattered. How can I best cope with this devastation and move forward?
Small Group Questions:
To build connection with a friend or in your small group, ask each other these questions.
1. Share a time when you’ve been betrayed by someone you trusted.
2. Did your betrayal feel like a landslide, tornado, tsunami, or other reference to devastation? How would you describe it?
3. Why do you think relationships take courage and faith? In your mind, what else do they take? Why it is worth it?
4. What’s one step of courage you could take this week to build or rebuild trust in a relationship important to you?
5. Soul Activity – Spend at least 20 seconds hugging someone you love. How do you feel after the long squeeze?
6. Soul Enchilada Steps of Faith + Therapy:
· Grief – Who or what do you need to grieve when it comes to betrayal?
· Ground – Take a few minutes to ground yourself, feel the chair holding you, and breathe in what you need and exhale what’s holding you back.
· Gratitude – Make a mental list of people, places, and things you’re grateful for. Thank God for each one.
· Gather – Intentionally reach out to a few friends or family members and make a plan to spend time together.
Resources:
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis A. Spring, PhD
How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not to
by Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD
Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold it, and How to Fix it When it Gets Broken in Life and Business by Dr. Henry Cloud
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