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CONFIDENCE- BREAKING OUT OF YOUR SHELL
I want to share with you a topic that is going to help you to build your confidence. Alright, I’m going to give you the first tip, and that is, there is a first time for everything.
There is a first time, when you’re going to start talking to people. You’re going to come out of your shell. You might say the first word and it may not come out the right way. You may feel awkward. You may feel unsure. You may feel that you said something stupid. You’re going to think it because that’s what it’s going to be and so what I want to share with you, is that the first time is going to be the hardest.
But the good news is, the more that we do something, the better we become. So when you first start talking to people, when you start coming out of your shell, just remember that. Know that the first times are going to be hard. It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s not.
If you’re coming from a place of, very, very shy, it’s going to take time. So I want you to understand that, that is going to happen and just accept it and learn from it. That’s the key. Learn, don’t let it kick you back, instead learn, move forward and take it as a learning lesson.
Also it does get easier. The more that we start talking to people, the more we start getting out there, the more we start being social, it’s going to get easier.
Now I want you to tell yourself affirmations. When you talk to people, when you’re out and about, ‘I’m confident. I’m confident. I am confident. Anyone will love to talk to me. I am likeable. I am a winner.’ You need to constantly tell yourself these things, because when you say that, you start to believe it. Your subconscious mind adapts it and so you start to act it.
So that’s the number one step I want to share with you, and that is to be empowered. Talk to people. Start talking even if it’s just a few words, work yourself up okay. Work yourself up until you lose the fear of just talking to people on some ‘hello’ and ‘bye’ stuff.
It doesn’t have to be a long conversation, just a quick ‘hello, hey how are you? Oh, good morning.’ ‘Hey, have a good day.’ ‘Oh that’s a nice chair.’ ‘Nice purse,’ just say something that breaks the ice, breaks the shield that you’ve been holding on to for so long.
And just remember that it’s not going to be easy. It’s not going to be…not the first time anyways, not the first couple times but the more you do it, the more positive feedback you’re going to get because people are not mean. People are not out there trying to say mean things to you and I know maybe the TV tells you that or your experiences from when you were in school, tell you that but that’s not how people are in the grown up world. I mean it’s really not.
When you say ‘hi’ to people, they like that. They’re going to respond with a smile, and they’re going to say ‘hi’ back, and then boom, you broke the cycle. You are moving forward. You are getting closer to your goal.
Whenever you do feel you made a mistake, I want you to just learn from it. Take it like a learning curve, because that’s really, what we’re going to be going through. So that’s a big one right there. Your experience, you must talk to people just by saying ‘hello.’ So that’s the first things that we must do to just get there, and just know that it’s not easy. Know that it’s going to be hard at first but it’s going to get easier with time.